Body Acceptance : Four Simple Ways To Heal Your Relationship With Your Body
A person is made up of hopes, dreams, interests, memories, likes, dislikes, feelings, thoughts etc. What can somebody really know about you from just looking at you? From your size? Not very much at all. However, we place so much importance on this, on looking like the images we see every single day online and in the media, those images which are most definitely photoshopped.
We end up resenting the bodies we have, pulling and tugging at them, poking and prodding, telling ourselves our bodies aren’t good enough, we as a whole are not good enough. Berating ourselves for not fitting into a particular clothing size - even when each shop frustratingly has it’s own bloomin' size. I love this video by Lucy Wood, trying on 10 different pairs of size 14 highstreet jeans to check the size difference.
So, how can we heal that relationship with our body and finally learn to accept it? Well, there isn’t just a one time fix all. There are tasks we can do to help us get to a place where we accept and feel grateful for our body and it is an ongoing relationship we need to maintain - like any relationship. Yes, there will still be times you fall into a body hatred rut, but those times will lessen.
So many parts of your body have been handed down to you, genetically from your family. Gather photos of family members, if you’re adopted you may have photos of your birth mother or father. Take time to note down the similarities between you and those family members. Many aspects of our appearances can’t be changed due to our genes. You will notice similarities you may never have noticed before. Consider facial features, height, skin tone, find a feature or features you like which you can spot has been passed down from a family member. This will open up a new way of appreciating your body.
What are your strengths? What are you good at? What non-appearance related qualities do you possess. Jot down the ones which apply to you and feel free to add your own words!
Making up stories
Laughing at jokes
Looking after loved ones including pets and plants
Listening to others
Playing computer games
Packing a suitcase
Creating festive displays
Knowing when to walk away
Writing to do lists
Finding a bargain
Being financially savvy
Writing blog posts
Throwing a ball
Remembering important dates
Speaking another language
Riding a bike
Riding a scooter
Walking a dog
Making up games
Using the perfect emoji
Tasting specific ingredients in food or drinks
Seeing the best in others
Taking care of others
What can you do?
What is something cool you can do with your body? Can you touch your tongue to your nose? Raise your eyebrows in a funny way? Are you double jointed? These unique intricacies make you the amazing person you are. Jot them down and brainstorm for a way of being proud of them.
Describe yourself as others see you.
If a loved one, who knows you really well, like your best friend were to describe you, your character and personality, nothing to do with your appearance, what would they say? Really try hard to think about this and be honest, open and connect with the way the world sees you and your soul.
You can find a Body Acceptance Meditation I created for you on my IGTV Channel here. If you would like to delve deeper into body acceptance, healing your relationship with food and eating, finding joyful movement and freeing yourself of diet culture, shame and guilt, you can download my free journaling prompts ebook to help you work through all of this and more.